What I have Learnt

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Wow! Sequel to my birthday I was doing a series on #WhatIhaveLearnt with some inputs from friends. And I will still be sharing most of them with us and what I really learnt from each of them:

1. “What I do with my life is mostly my responsibility than that of others”

I’ve seen people blame the system, their parents, their friends and even their enemies for not succeeding so they hardly want to say they are responsible for something that happens to them. Someone must be at fault for their problems and not them. I was once there but I’d chosen to rise above them. No excuses! If something went wrong than I thought that means I was actually wrong from the beginning so why blame anybody for my wrongs. It’s your fault you’re where you are so rise above it, take responsibility for your life and future.

2. “SWAG means Something We All Got: Potential”

and it is what will pay when everything you’d worked for failed to work out. When all the certifications you’ve got matters less and what is within you begins to manifest. Your potential is something that no amount of money is enough to buy what you’ve got inside you.

3. “To do more is to have done little.”

Always surprised how people want things to happen in a flash without going through the right processes, they are not giving enough, they are not saving enough and yet they want things that are even bigger than them. Having big dreams won’t pay only if you go through the right processes by starting with little.

4. “You’re absolutely unique, you can’t be wearing someone else clothes on your potential.”

A lot of us are living other people’s lives and not making use of our own potentials. We want to go where they go, do what they do, have what they have, live as they live, want what they want but fail to ask what do I want, what can I do, what do I have and what do I want. Your life is a blessing, you are someone’s miracle.

5. “Knowledge gained means nothing if it’s not passed unto others.”

When you share they knowledge you have, you gain more. But when you hoard knowledge, you know what you know for yourself. You are not been impacted and you’re not making impact. The key to learning is in sharing what you already have. Remember you don’t know much so you have to learn more.

6. “When you make true change, it won’t matter what others think of you.”

When it comes to change there is a greater force responsible that human understanding cannot comprehend when we make changes that are really true. You owe no one an explanation for such change when GOD is responsible. Don’t groan when that change does not favour you, inasmuch that it favours the person involved then it shouldn’t be your problem.

7. “When you value yourself, you become more of an asset than a liability and you become less an option. No one will ever take you for granted.”

People will value you based on the value you place on yourself. When you have low self esteem, you will always be of less or no value to people around you. You’ve got to affirm great thinga upon yourself everyday and you won’t be looking for compliments from others. We lose our minds when we want compliments from others at all cost. Let it be earned with so much of self respect attached to it.

8. “I’ve learnt to give, not because I have many but because I know exactly how it feels to have nothing.” – Clara Odeke.

You can’t be a generous and cheerful giver if you’ve not experienced what it means to have nothing. I affirm to give as much as I can even beyond my ability. What about you?

9. “Behind every face are problems, troubles, pain, sorrow and suffering, that needs healing, the need your love, your touch and your heart. Don’t take them for granted. Treat them right.”

The hardest lesson I’ve learnt in a week. People all over the place rejected for their past, no one to help them get back up. None to help them believe that they can be more. It’s not our business, we say we are perfect while they plunge deeper in their pain. We all need each other, some are weak, some are strong and if you’re strong allow the weak to experience heaven with you.

10. “Heaven is not for the educated, intelligent and morally right (self righteous) people. Heaven is for forgiven people who got perfect through repentance.”

Someone said and I quote “Your generation would be worse and darkness would reign more than now.” I won’t say I refuse it going by what is happening in our world today. I hear people say “body no be wood”, “junior must wack”, and to the intelligentsia “I’m not perfect”. So should we continue in sin because we are imperfect. Hell No!!! And to those that fill they are perfect, they only boast in their strengths and not in His grace. By world’s standards we’re not perfect but there is an higher standard far above any other. That is God’s standard, by His standards we are perfect through Jesus Christ and the manifestation of the Holy Spirit in Us.God is working in us, for us, through us to bring His Kingdom on earth.

This is my ten! What is yours?

How Playing It Safe Can Ruin Your Life by Gary Korisko

ImageImageHave you ever missed out on a great opportunity because you played it safe?

Think about it. Look back over your life and think about the things you could have done. The opportunities you could have taken, the people you could have befriended, the experiences you could have savoured.

But back then those things seemed scary and risky. Wanting to play it safe, you elected to stay in your comfort zone at the time.

From where you sit now, you can easily and clearly see that you should have acted upon some of those things. In retrospect, those things were scary or risky at all – just different and new. They were, in all actuality, blessings that you walked away from.

It’s a sobering and outright sad feeling, isn’t it?

 

Playing It Safe Isn’t About Safety At All

You’re not the only one who has done that. Most of us have a tendency to play it safe.

Some of us equate playing it safe with being sensible and prudent. But most of the time, it’s something else all together.

The real problem isn’t safety or risk at all. The real problem is fear.

As humans, we are hard-wired to allow fear into our decision making. Most of us simply don’t understand fear, where it comes from, or the role it plays in what we choose to do or not do.

By understanding it more, you can prevent fear from clouding your decision-making process.

It’s Not Brain Surgery

What if I were to tell you that there was a little tiny part of your brain that pre-wires you to avoid risk and play it safe? Well, there actually is.

It’s called the amygdala and it plays a big part in what motivates us to behave the way we do. One of the functions of the amygdala is processing emotions – particularly those associated with survival. Like the emotion of fear for instance.

When you are in a familiar situation that you know to be safe, your amygdala is happy and secure – and so are you. But when something new or seemingly risky comes along, the amygdala kicks into high gear. It lets you know, “Hey, we’re outside our comfort zone here. Retreat! Withdrawal!”

Sometimes that reaction can save your life. Other times it can hold you back from a more fulfilling life.

The trick is learning to know the difference between valid fears of very real danger to our safety – and invalid fears of something new.

Mauled or Embarrassed – The Choice Is Yours

There are basically two types of decisions we make when we perceive danger or consequences. The first type, I call safe decisions – which are survival based. They keep us alive and assure we have adequate food and shelter. The second type I refer to as fearful decisions – which tend to keep us from taking less life-threatening risks and prevent us from spreading our wings.

Let’s take a look at some examples of both.

Safe or Feaurful

Safe decisions come from a very real fear of severe consequences to your health, life, or quality of life – while fearful decisions come from someplace completely different.

Look at that right hand column. If any one of those scenarios goes as badly as it’s capable of going, what happens? Does anyone die, go to prison, or lose their shelter? No. As it turns out the things we fear most seem to be much more about our feelings than they are about very serious consequences.

“I am an old man and have known a great many troubles, but most of them have never happened.” – Mark Twain

Our Five Most Common Baseless Fears

In my professional life, I’ve noticed time and time again that there are five major feelings-based fears that people let trip them up on their path to a better life. You’ll notice that they’re all very closely related.

1: Fear of failure

Have you ever passed on an opportunity to try something truly exciting because you were afraid you might fail at it? I have. The ironic thing is the fact that if you don’t try, you’ve already failed. So there’s really not much to lose. And yet we talk ourselves into believing that by not risking failure we’re somehow better off.

2: Fear of rejection

If you pitched your idea to the boss, or asked out that cute girl you like, or submitted your novel to a publisher, you might get rejected – and rejection hurts. So instead of feeling that emotion, we limit our potential and call it “playing it safe.”

3: Fear of inadequacy

This one usually manifests itself as, “I’m not good enough to do this thing I really want to do.” While this fear doesn’t necessarily originate from survival instinct, it’s no less powerful than any of the others.

4: Fear of unworthiness

Closely related to the fear of inadequacy, the self-talk associated with the fear of unworthiness sounds like, “Who am I to think that I might achieve that thing?” It comes from a place of humility, which normally is a good thing. But it’s also self-deprecating and destructive.

5: Fear of further commitment

This one should sound familiar, because we’re all guilty of it from time to time. We don’t always pass on opportunity because we’re afraid that we’re not good enough. Sometimes we know darn well that we’re good enough, but the ramifications of succeeding and the additional commitment needed after success is achieved scare the bejesus out of us.

Fighting Emotion With Logic

So now that you know that these fears are normal and that you’re not the only one who struggles with them, the question becomes: What can you do to get over them?

I find that instead of fighting raw innate human fears head-to-head, it’s best to use logic to take their power away.

When you find yourself letting any of those fears stop you from bettering yourself, run yourself through these three questions:

1: What is the worst thing that could happen if I ignored my fear and did this?

Take out a pen and paper and list all the potential (realistic) consequences. Would there be a loss of life, health, or livelihood? Or is the real risk just having to temporarily deal with an uncomfortable emotion like rejection or embarrassment?

2: What is the absolute best thing that could happen if I ignored my fear and went for it?

List all these, too. How might your life be different? What things might you learn? Who might you have the opportunity to connect with?

3: Are the possible consequences under #1 worth the potential benefits under #2?

Take a good look at both lists and give this question some thought. If the consequence of a particular action is death and the upside is a 10% pay raise – then your choice is simple. Avoid death.

But if the consequence of your action is rejection and the potential benefit is your dream career, swallow your fear and go for it.

Logic Tames The Beast

I know this seems incredibly simple – and it is. It’s simple and obvious because we just took an emotional issue and made it logical.

When you take the emotional power away from your fear and look at the situation as data – good decisions become much easier.

Do me a favor. The next time you find yourself “playing it safe”, run yourself through this quick exercise. Reduce the emotional to the logical. Then come back and let us know how things turned out.

Link to original post: http://addicted2success.com/life/how-playing-it-safe-can-ruin-your-life/

One Dream Too Many

ImageIt is great to have dreams but it takes consistency, preparation and assiduous planning to make these dreams come through. We all have dreams if not, then why do we hope for a better future. The fact is we all believe in this reality but how many are willing to pay the price to make their dreams come through. It will always remain a dream if you keep sleeping on it except you take the relevant actions. You can dream of owning a mansion but you can’t wake up from your nap and then see yourself in the mansion. You have to put in the right resources to make your dream real and that is when you begin the building process. There are always available resources for every dream, there is also a price tag and a time frame. Many just feel that dreams would come through by magic not by action. As a life without a dream is useless so is a dream without the needed action is wasteful.

To live on purpose you need to know why you exist, and then use your mind to think of the dreams that has been placed in your heart. Be prepared, take action and be unique as you step out to achieve your dreams.

 

 

Your turn now!!!

What are the dreams you will like to achieve?

 

 

John-Anthony Oyewobi is a youth advocate for change, founder and President Youths for Change Nigeria a Non-governmental organization that aims to help youths make a difference in their communities through creative thinking and bringing forth great innovations. To build the next generation of inventors and innovators, and also to bring forth the next generation of great leaders.

Go MAD

In this part of the world we are always made to believe that we are too young to start something, do something and make certain decisions. Growing up was quite interesting and can’t stop thinking how people’s decisions  shaped me but the pains where more than the gains. Pursuing their dreams for me, what they wanted me to become as I grew progressively but my small mentality didn’t help too so it was all my fault.

At 16, I went to seek for a job at a clothing shop but I only spent a week in the job because to some I was in the wrong place and I thought I had no power to challenge the status quo. Am not giving the same recipe to the younger folks because what is right for me might be wrong for you and there is something for sure and it’s beyond this statement “No one is too young to make a difference nor is anyone too old.” You don’t seek for differences, you strive to make a difference but you must be ready to GoMAD (Go Make A Difference). Note that life is a serious business and it will give you what you gave into it.

You need to discover your purpose because it is the only security to your stardom. Start off early folks because you were created to make a difference.

How to Make a Difference

You should never be afraid of thinking about situations you want to change for the better or a problem you can solve. Learn to grow knowing what you were created to become. And here are ways you can make a difference as a young person hoping to start off early.

1. Define Yourself

Answer all the questions about you: Who am I? What am I living for? What am I created to do? What if nothing existed what would I do? What have I achieved so far? What can I achieve? What can I do to make a difference. All through my teenage age I always wanted to challenge the status quo, wanted to do things not because it had not been done before but because someone has challenged me to, as its often seen as an impossibility.

2. Focus

I think as a young person I’d lost focus due to non-acceptance to my cause, making half-baked decisions and listening to too many voices that only lead me down the road than up. It was a great lesson though and today I tend to mind my own business, when people make suggestions with respect my cause I just separate the weed from the vine and take the vine with me. So if you’ve got a dream or vision you need to accomplish all you need to do is stay focused. Care little about being accepted or not as I said earlier pretend as though nothing existed. Don’t let non-acceptance pull you down rather strive to win them over, if you can’t win their acceptance keep doing the best you can. Make decisions that are worth your time and energy, don’t make the ones that will keep you going in circles.

3. Be Ready

Plan on how you want to achieve what you’re about to start. Create the strategy needed to make you effective before you begin the pursuit.

4. Be in Pursuit

“If you can’t fly, run; if you can’t run, walk; if you can’t walk, crawl. Whichever  way make sure you keep moving.” It must not be an enormous task, set little tasks and take them one step at a time. Just imagine how wonderful it would be if nobody in this world need to wait a single moment before starting to improve the world.

5. Study More

Its not all about academic books or business books alone, you’ll need to study biographies about people that moved the world by challenging the status quo and also keep tabs on articles online by subscribing to blogs like Under30CEO, Quicksprout, Naijapreneur and some other interesting blogs.

Along your way you will be a great inspiration to many even the older folks who think they are too old to do something. They’ll want to follow your progress and you’ll also empower young people like you to do something and stop whining. The world needs people like you to solve problems.

Your Turn

What other ways do you think you can make a difference?

John-Anthony Oyewobi is the president of Youths for Change (Y4C) Nigeria and he’s also  a budding consultant whose hope is to change the way people do business by revolutionizing the business environment. He’s currently doing his internship programme with National Metallurgica Development Center, Jos Nigeria.

Bedtime is Over

So many times I’d grimed at what supposedly got me thinking: Every man has a time to live and die, whether scared of the inevitable or not, mission accomplished or not, whether young or old. Remember death is unpredictable and living each day is a great miracle. What is life to you? Are you sitting at a particular level of comfort and think you’ve arrived yet? Kindly ask yourself this questions and humbly answer them. Are you still sleeping? When will you awake from your slumber? Wake Up My Friend! I say Arise!! There is no other time than now except if you want to miss out from this journey called life. Reawaken your hope, rewire your dreams and set forth towards the right direction. Don’t retire to failure and say you can’t, No!!! You Can. As a person the way you take life and your thoughts would determine how you’ll arrive at your destination and remember a lot of people wished they saw this day but never did. Some made wrong choices and hasty decisions, that’s why they still remain in the same place. If you’ve fallen and still have the breath of life running through you then it’s never too late, move towards that opened door of opportunity.

In the world today so many have fallen and never got back up to reposition themselves for greater success. Some have not started or done anything yet, they’ve never touched a heart; they didn’t even strive to live their lives for others rather they ended up with frustration and strife. Some can’t even get their troubled self to rest because they always complain and blame others for their inability to succeed. There is always a sleep for rest and one bore out of laziness which helps us to procrastinate for as long as we could. You must stop sleeping as you will miss the flight and begin to realize your dreams, the dream should be where a man’s heart is and he must dare to pursue that dream.

Arise! Step out of that comfort zone and set your feet for success, risk all you have even your own life. There is more to life than what you think, if you fail to take risks then you’re defying your existence because that is what you were created to do. You live to risk dying and not to stay below the box. Remember you’ll only die once. In this part of the world we are known to starting late, that’s enough reason why we have over-aged footballers. You can deceive every other person but you can’t deceive your body because it goes weak as you grow old. Start off early even if it is from the sidelines and spare yourself all the old fairy tales. No one wants to hear your problems; they want to see how you’ll get through it. You’re placed in the middle of that problem or situation not to groan, complain and blame but to bring about a solution.

From this day I challenge you your success does not depend on the kind of home you’ve lived all your life, it’s about you and you truly can make a difference. Stop underestimating your potential; the event of your past does not reduce your potential. Forget what people think or have said about you, you’re your best motivator. Stop looking down, look up and begin to seek for the little areas of your life you can make a difference so also the lives of those around you. Rejection is only redirection, as often as you get them ensure they make you stronger. You can only get to where you’ve always hoped to be by moving and not by looking. No matter the challenges make sure you keep moving. Whatever that enemy is, don’t succumb to it. You’ve got more power than it: Procrastination, those bad habits, take action today so you can rise to a point of eminence. Take the Lots off your life and stand tall. It’s your choice now to be in pursuit of your dreams or continue to peruse over it. Stay awake to achieve it or keep sleeping, lastly win or lose. Remember no dream can be achieved through romance alone, you have to love that dream and ensure that it is achieved. It’s up to you to make the right choice.

Credits

1. Become a Better You by Joel Osteen

Think Opportunities!

On dictionary.com Opportunity is defined as a situation or condition favorable for attainment of a goal.   It is also known good position, chance, or prospect, as for advancement or success. Have you ever imagined the way the world will look like if we are all able to unlock opportunities wherever you find yourself. Looking at Nigeria opportunities abound , so when you try to give excuses for losing an opportunity failing to understand that you can find another. Our immediate environment, the place we live thus presents us with a lot of opportunities only if you begin to get some clarity using the intuitive power of the brain – our thoughts.

Nigeria is richly blessed with great natural and human resources, we always wonder why we still remain at the bottom. There are vast opportunities in virtually every field of endeavor but we often look at some with pride that we often say we don’t belong there. For us to build a great system that would be an example to many we must begin to see our problems from within and see them as an opportunity to seek for solutions from within not from without.

Nothing limits achievement like small thinking. Nothing expands possibilities like unleashed thinking. If you unleash your thoughts you can empower your future by beginning to think like a king. You have to seize that opportunity and stop giving excuses because of one door just got shot on you. Be part of that mental game because there are opportunities everywhere.

Remember, it is not every opportunity that leads to success but you have to keep seeking for the right one. For every great rise you need to pay a great price. So go ahead keep thinking about the next opportunity!

“It is not every change that leads to improvement but you need change to improve.”

 

Credits

1. Opportunity: http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/opportunity

2. Velocity by Smith Bam